I’ve been robbed of my boards. I used to love Pregnancy boards. Hundreds of women posting all sorts of details on the web as part of an on-line pregnancy or parenting community. They were lovely, enthusiastic places for young women to bond over their pregnancies.
But I stick out like a sore thumb. Over 35. Divorced… on some boards there aren’t many working moms, either. I don’t know why I feel uncomfortable with boards now. Maybe it’s because it seems like there are few women like me out there. Maybe it’s because I feel jaded; I’m not handing out sticky vibes and baby dust. Maybe it’s because the other mothers don’t quite know what to make of me (you mean women over 35 have sex?!?!)
I want a place where I can talk about all the things a mature, working mom has to face. How much the miscarriage and congenital issue stats completely freak me out. How long I’m hoping to hide the fact I’m pregnant from my employer. How much I miss coffee. How on earth will I tell my kids? What will happen to my career? What will happen to my body? Will my partner hate me for this?
Most of all… I worry that I’ll become that annoying, completely unfair but oft-repeated tale that will forever be offered to women suffering from infertility - “I know someone who got knocked up at 40 and they were using birth control – so you can certainly get pregnant if she could.”
you and i are in 2 different phases in life, but i’m here to help any way that i can. if you go to my page and read the “who is this aunt to be,” you’ll find out that i’m not even pregnant. i’m just an aunt with sister-in-law who is carrying my niece. i decided to write the blog to help and entertain other women out there who are pregnant, when i found yours.
i don’t know if this will help, but here are some books that might be a good read:
1. http://www.amazon.com/This-How-We-Do-Manifesto/dp/B000NA1XVC/ref=pd_bbs_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1202051735&sr=1-1
2. http://www.amazon.com/Ready-Women-Embracing-Later-Motherhood/dp/0465027857/ref=sr_1_26?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1202051973&sr=1-26
3. http://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Soup-Working-Moms-Soul/dp/0757306845/ref=sr_1_64?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1202052109&sr=1-64
you sound nervous, totally understandable. i’m here if you want to chat! you can comment on my page under each entry title. it’s a little small so you have to look for it.
hope you’re feeling well!